In lieu of having two adult children, I've had time to go back and reconsider how I raised them. If I could do it over again, I would have been more emotionally available. My reason for not doing so was my previous belief that it would weaken them if they had gotten used to being treated a certain way and I knew this society would not treat them the same way. I wanted them to have tough skin so that they could survive. Unfortunately, in this society, black people are not looked at with empathy a…